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How Should I Interact With My Children?
Here are some things to keep in mind when you are with your children, which
will help in your quest for custody:
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Do not badmouth your spouse.
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As much as you can manage it, do not lean on your children.
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Keep your composure in front of them; do not break down in tears, and do not scream in rage or frustration.
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Be there for them physically as much as reasonably possible.
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Keep stable routines.
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Be the "mainstay" parent.
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Be the parent who the child calls in the middle of the night.
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Drive the kids around to their activities.
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Be the parent who helps with their homework.
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Help with the religious training.
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Go to school functions and teacher meetings.
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In general, encourage the child's development and well-being.
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If you are currently the custodial parent, do not take even
a one-week vacation to "find yourself" or "collect
yourself." Instead, relax alone or with a few friends at home after
the kids have gone to bed. Do not start new outside activities that
consume your time.
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Men who work are often advised to encourage their wives to take time off away from the
family. (This is the flip side of the previous point.)
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Men who work are often advised to assume new day-care roles such as making play
dates, planning birthday parties, taking children to the doctors,
meeting with teachers, and coaching sports.
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Men who work are advised to cook for the kids whenever possible.
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Men are advised that it's not flashy gifts for the children, but
extended time covering the basics of life, that matters to a judge.
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